“What hurts the heart of a man and makes him suffer? “ asked a girl.
The sheikh answered, “Arrogant words and ignorant actions. Actions which do not contain modesty, sincerity, reserve, fear of wrongdoing, and good conduct hurt the heart of man. Behavior which is opposite to the truth, speaking evil of others, slandering others without knowledge of the truth, telling lies, coveting and stealing the property of others, suspicion, deceit, treachery, and lack of respect to elders and parents and to those of wisdom- these and many similar actions are the ones that most wound and hurt the heart of man”
[Bawa Muhaiyaddeen (rh.a), Golden Words of a Sufi Sheikh, Word 484 ]